A Beautiful Day

A week ago, I didn’t think I’d be writing this post today. And it’s a little weird. Good, but weird. I’ll just get to the point – J proposed to me last weekend! I know, what the f*ck, right?! Oh and I said yes. That’s right, I’m engaged. I guess it’s not that surprising (we’ve been together almost 3 years), but I was still surprised. Anyway, I’m excited and a bit overwhelmed and this is how it went down!

First, we had a two-week trip planned to The Maldives in June that got canceled (thanks COVID) – J had originally planned to propose while we were there (I had no idea). After being at home for months and months, we were both dying to get away for a few days. As you probably guessed, I’m a little psycho about social distancing so I wanted to do it as safely as possible. We decided to go to Salishan Coastal Lodge because it’s only 2 hours away, we could bring our own food (there’s a microwave and fridge in every room), and we would have access to a semi-private beach. Really, it was the best decision ever.

If you haven’t been to the Oregon Coast, it’s pretty common for it to be cold, grey, and raining. I still love it, but when you’re there on a clear day, oh my god, it’s incredible. And last Sunday, it was the most beautiful day.

It took all my willpower not to get in the water and swim. Yes, it was freezing, but I miss swimming so much and I spent so much time on this beach as a child (my grandparents had a home on this beach), it was difficult for me not to go in. J was very concerned that I was going to be taken away in a rip-tide and he kept telling me I was going in too far! I asked if he would save me if I got pulled out to sea and he said he probably wouldn’t because I’m a better swimmer than he is. A good call on his part.

After walking a while, we found some logs to sit on J set up his phone on a mini tripod to take our picture. He does stuff like this, so I didn’t think it was weird or anything. What he actually did was set up his phone to record the proposal. Thankfully, it was so windy that you can’t hear what he said or what I said. I think I asked, “Are you being serious?” about a million times. Yep, I’m so romantic. Anyway, I said yes! And then we decided to play with some smoke bombs!! A pretty fun way to celebrate!

Smoke bombs are so much fun!

We haven’t made any plans for a wedding and I think we’re just going to wait for COVID to be more under control before we do anything. We want to have a big party to celebrate where we can invite friends and family (and actually hug and stand near each other) and eat a TON of cake so that will probably be at least a year away. And no, we’re not planning on having kids because I don’t want to ruin my life, but I am planning on adopting 100 dogs! J hasn’t agreed to adopting 100…yet.

Speaking of kids, I miss my nieces and nephews so much. My sister sent me this pic of Kennedy yesterday:

I mean, how f*cking cute is she?!!! It amazes me how much she looks and acts like my sister. They are basically twins born 31 years apart – to the day. I also love her outfit and asked if I could borrow it (she said no). Mean.

That’s it for today. Enjoy your weekend, social distance, wear masks, be anti-racist, and be kind.

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Pizza Cookies, Zoom, Cats and 14 years ago

I have a few fun things to write about today! First, I’m still educating myself on all things diversity and wow, I’ve learned so much in the past few weeks. I would be disappointed if I thought for too long about how I should have been educated about this much earlier in my life, but I’ve decided to be excited that I am learning now and that I’m open to changing. This gives me hope. #blacklivesmatter

While the US is opening up (kind of), I’m still staying home and still so thankful I don’t have children. I have gone to the aesthetician (#ihatebodyhair) and I finally had my hair bleached and cut today (#ihatenaturalcolorhair)! But that’s it. I grocery shop as little as possible and don’t go to restaurants. The most consistent thing in my life are my walks. Every single day. I hate that I can’t swim right now and I can feel that I’ve lost a lot of upper body strength as a result. Althoooooooough, I decided to stop bitching and complaining and do something about it so I now do 5 push ups every time I go to the bathroom (not while I’m going to the bathroom, after). I’m probably doing 30+ push ups a day and I can already feel that it’s helping!

We have started fostering cats! We had two cats, Marcia and Stella:

Marcia has already been adopted so that’s awesome! Stella, the grey cat, had a litter of kittens and then got spayed so she’s spent her recovery time with us. She just got listed for adoption so we may not have her for much longer. They are both such nice cats and fostering is great – just feed them and you don’t have to think about how they’re going to be around for a million years. A lot less stress for sure!

I think we’ve all been spending a lot of time on Zoom and I’ve never been more thankful that I invested in wigs! Before I finally got my hair done, it looked like a cross between a mullet and clown hair so it was great to have a few wigs to wear. Also, the peeps I’m talking to LOVE to see my new looks when I join!

As I mentioned a few weeks months ago, we have family Zoom meetings that sometimes incorporate challenges. We had a pizza cookie challenge that was pretty fun…although it took more time than any of us anticipated. I sent everyone this recipe as a guide.

The goal was to make something that looked like a pizza from ingredients for cookies, taste didn’t matter. This was my final result:

Here’s my sister’s family’s pizza:

And here’s my dad, Jon and Carlos’ pizza!

You may be wondering about my brother’s family, but they didn’t actually do the challenge and only put some pre-made cookie dough balls on a plate. #notwinning

Kennedy and I are also spending some time on Zoom together! My sister told me what books she has so I ordered a digital copy of one from the library. Kennedy and I have a set meeting every week to practice reading (her reading, not mine, but thanks for asking). We meet for about 30 minutes, which is enough time to talk about life, read a few pages of her book and check-in with the dogs. I LOVE IT and her reading is getting so much better!

Finally, George and I celebrated our 14th un-anniversary on Tuesday! We got married on June 30, 2006 and it was really one of the best days of my life. While I didn’t think we’d get divorced, I wouldn’t change it for anything. We are best friends and I hope we’ll always be in each other’s lives. In a true act of celebration, I got us some vegan Irish Oatmeal cupcakes from Piece of Cake bakery! They are so f*cking good.

We used to celebrate by eating half a cake each, but I thought it would be weird to order our wedding topper when we’re not married anymore. Oh yeah, and we probably shouldn’t be eating half of a cake…

Happy 4th of July! Stay safe, wear masks and social distance!!

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All I Know is that I Don’t Know

I think it’s fair to say that the last few weeks have been eye-opening for a lot of people. A lot of white people. Myself included. While I understood that racism still exists in our country, I don’t think I truly understood how embedded it is in all aspects of society or the role I have played in it. Shit, I married a Black man, my sister married a Black man, my brother married a Japanese woman, I have mixed race nieces and nephews…we obviously “fixed” racism, right? No. Not even close.

I’m saddened to say that I’ve only recently (in the last few years) realized my white privilege. I know I’ve always seen racism in others, but avoided or was oblivious to seeing it in myself. Talking about race makes me very uncomfortable and it’s a lot easier to say that it’s someone else’s issue. It’s also easier to avoid it altogether by not watching videos of police brutality or not reading statistics that so clearly identify the oppression of Blacks in our society (out of sight, out of mind). Well, it’s time for me to grow up and finally face it because avoiding it is not going to protect the people I love so much and no one should have to explain to a seven year old why some people are more likely to be killed solely based on the color of their skin.

Because I’ve avoided these issues for so long, I’m starting with my own education. I’m listening to podcasts (like 1619), watching interviews, reading books like White Fragility and How to be an Antiracist, and I’m also taking an online course on race and cultural diversity – all things I’ve avoided since I was in school. I’m trying to get comfortable with the idea that I will sometimes say the wrong thing and that it’s okay. It’s better than being silent. I want to learn. I want to be better.


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